Back when I did counseling, I used to say, “give me someone who’s face down in the mud any day before a client who’s just mildly miserable.” That’s because I knew, from personal experience, that when we’re face down in the mud, we’re perfectly poised for transformation. Complaining might get us attention, but it never creates change.
I experienced transformation (the first time) over 30 years ago when I got so angry at being overweight that I said, “No more!” I made a decision that weight would never again rule my life. Even though I’d been an overweight dieter for most of my life, I vowed to do whatever it took to get past the whole issue and feel good in my skin. I wanted to have a good life, and that was holding me back! I threw out all my diet books, stopped believing in that myth called willpower, installed exercise, and am in better shape now than ever before. My anger at feeling trapped led me to make a strong decision about my life and generated the energy I needed to make it happen.
If you are seeking a change in your life right now (as so many are), resist the urge to complain, blame, or tolerate misery. Those keep you stuck and expand your misery. Instead, find your anger and use it to make a strong decision about your life, your finances, your business, or your career. Here’s a quote to guide you (as it still guides me):
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner
of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.
I have learned a great respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: ‘Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.’
Instead of focusing on what you don’t want, why not use this Spring to sprout new ideas. Decide what you truly want and then commit to have it. You’ll be amazed at the power of going ALL IN!